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26thAvenuePoet (Elizabeth)'s avatar

Hard things are HARD. Grief is soooooo hard. I'm so sorry things are this hard for you, these days.

Love from an internet stranger who thinks you and your sheep and house wolves and Brandy Horse are awesome.

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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Thank you very much

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Patricia Forst's avatar

Grief, particularly cumulative grief, takes time. I’m glad you have reasons to get out of bed. I know it’s hard not focusing on your losses, but please talk to your 3 friends about the good times with the people you loved. I journaled for years to get through losses of my own. They started with all my overwhelming feelings but progressed into gratitude over time. The pain softens but the place they occupied remains… empty some days, full on others.

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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Thank you for your kind words and support. I appreciate you sharing this with me.

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Vicky K's avatar

I'm so sorry for the depression you are going through. Winter is really hard for me a well. I feel your pain of loss, Monday was the 15th year since my youngest son's suicide. I go though what you are experiencing, tho I have to tell you, time does make it a little easier, not during the time I lost him, but the in betweens get easier (tho winters are still hard because it's so barren and I need the light), and I have a few times in the in between times that I am sad, but not as deep. The winters without the sunshine and colors are definitely harder for sure and yeah I lose my mojo too. You will never not feel that twinge of loss and some days will be hard and some times of the year will be harder (dates around his loss and special days you celebrated) but sometime, as time goes on, there will be times it's a little easier to deal with and you will remember some things you laughed at that will bring a smile to your face instead of tears, tho it's still to fresh to feel that now. I know you will see him again, just as I know I will one day see my son again, they aren't really gone, just out of our reach at the moment.

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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Thank you for your kind words and support. I appreciate you sharing your loss with me. I am holding you close.

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Julie and Lurko in Mexico's avatar

Writing also helps! Glad to see you on Substack again.

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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Thank you!!

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Iris Weston's avatar

I find it humbling and amazing when someone who had a loss of this magnitude soldiers on and sees the good things around like you do. Forgive the platitude, but grief is the price of love, and love is the reward again, in the end. I salute you.

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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Thank you for your kind words.

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J. F. Riordan's avatar

Grief takes time just when you feel you can’t spare any. Wishing you grace, comfort, and the slow peace of nature.

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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Thank you

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Lydia Knox's avatar

Sending you all the magic you need.

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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Blessed be!

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Jeanne Pegrum's avatar

Tee hee! You'll never catch me!

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Jeanie Mason's avatar

Hugs to you. I'm sorry you are going through another wave of grief. This will pass. May the warming of the sun, the greening of the fields, and knowing that we care bring back your smile. Walks are how I deal with life's challenges. I hope you see something on them that makes your heart glad.

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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Thank you for your kind thoughts.

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Jeanne Pegrum's avatar

And your birthday is almost here! Check you mail. I love you!

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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Shhh. That’s a dirty word!

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EKB's avatar

Grief comes in stages and waves. Take your vitamin D. Make sure to take a multivitamin too and calcium. Please take care of yourself.

I am sorry you are having a hard time now. HUGS

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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Thank you so much!

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